Beetwen people there who like to berate.
Prophet rarely reply to insults people. Behind the offense, we are likely to grab the glory.
A man came to Abu Bakr.
Without bi-ba-bu mencacimaki one man is a friend of the prophet who is his beloved. Salallaahu Prophet alaihi wassalam
who was sitting beside him, looking amazed as he smiled at the Abu Bakr did not say anything ..
But when Abu Bakr said makiansemakin much too meladeninya. Prophet rose by
faces do not like the attitude of Abu Bakr's. He stood up and
Abu Bakr followed him.
"O Messenger of Allah, he was chided makiku yet you remain seated. But
when kuladeni some words, you are angry and stood up.
Why is that O Messenger of Allah? "Said Abu Bakar.
"Surely there is an angel with you, then he turned away from you. When
thou serve his own words, what the devil came and I was not going to sit
with the devil, "replied the Apostle. Then he continued
advice, "No person persecuted because persecution which he
carry forward unless God will add to him the glory and
of greatness. "(Narrated by Imam Ahmad Abu Al Kabsyah Anmari)
Rida
Not
There was an incident, even a leaf had fallen,
but already in the scenario of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. So
Similarly anything that happened to us in everyday life. Starting from
large to small events which have all been planned by God.
Because
the attitude of people who believe in the face of all events
receipt with the heart field and pleasure; as a dish of God.
Calamity that outwardly harmful for people to be patient instead
fields to get a reward from Him.
"We (Allah) will
give to people who take patient's reward according to
deeds they have done with the best. "(An Surat.
Nahl: 96)
One incident that may often
occur in the association is an unpleasant word, verbal
maki for example. In order not in vain, to face things like this need to be
the right attitude. The attitude of Abu Bakr who is able to be patient and refrain
silent, making the Apostle smiled. But at the time of Abu Bakr began
serve verbal abuse, the Apostle also shows the attitude of do not like it.
And that made Abu Bakr only serve some words
only. And what about the attitude of most of us so far?
Boro-boro
restraint. Often even more emotional and spontaneous replies
being waged even more aggressively than verbal feedback cursing. With
face red and angry voice explosiveness meluncurlah words
more acute. Not only answer some of the words, but one
words instead rewarded with ten words. Naudhubillah.
Attitude
emotional and lose control like that, a sign of less
pleased with the event. We forget that what really happened
a shipment of God to test our attitude. When the emotional
Such orientation center is no longer wanted to win the pleasure of God, but
mere lasciviousness. Der the importance bam Dar satisfied.
We can not imagine, what if the attitude of the Apostle with us.
Which he probably did not just get up and stand, but
ran away. The demon who swarmed around us too much.
With
realize that there is no coincidence unless the will
God, the heart will be pleased. Attitude that is needed to keep us
controllable.
Imagine that we are witnessing an episode
three-dimensional soap opera extraordinary diskenario by God. Enjoy
verbal cursing like he was watching the stars acting in
glass screen. When starting the bait, say seek forgiveness, and orient
liver at the pleasure of Allah, it will make the mind more calm. With
spiritual atmosphere like that angel who was with us still
accompany.
The attitude of angry and emotional, it
menjerembabkan us in contempt. I wish to defend the honor, but
with a sharper reply saying it shows the quality
our spiritual. Even angels who came out and surrounded instead
the devil. Not only the loss of honor before men, but also
in front of Allah and His Messenger.
Choose
Often
response actions are determined by circumstances. If the received
then the reaction was also invective invective. "Well, we had no choice
more than repay it. He has insulted our honor, then we
was insulted to defend himself. "So stated reasons.
Human
actually not only determined by the environment, but also by
himself. Even some people able to influence
the environment.
They melt a frozen environment, improve
a bad state. Faced with the existing state of the people were given
ability to choose. When faced with verbal abuse, one can contemplate
to myself, what the best thing to do; silent or
back.
"Invite the fatwas to your own heart. Goodness
is what menentreramkan soul and heart. Sin is anything
that harass the soul, and doubted the heart. "(HR.Imam Ahmad)
We
will be able to choose the best course of action if the attitude is based on pleasure. With
realize that all of God will make the heart remain clear and
the mind is also clear. Finally, the selected action appears.
Vote
heart that drive the values of goodness still sound. Any thoughts
can choose the most appropriate word and pronounce it with a verbal
beautiful, not origin nerocos. Certainly it would be a different case if the verbal
faced with an attitude of emotional abuse. Liver controlled passions and
anger while the mind was so dirty. Finally, the flow in
verbal obscenities is even more acute.
In fact,
an insult with foul language will not make
others lower than humbled himself. Profanity
that out of the mouth, more shows who is to say from
on who is saying dwarfs. Dirty words, dirty means too
his mind. So in fact no reply, the other person is enough
judge who is actually worse that. But when we
reply to verbal abuse with verbal abuse was much sharper and
excessive, even showing the ugliness of our souls. Attitude
excessive in reply that just made us both fall
with those who revile it.
Wisdom
God
confronts us with circumstances that do not we like it of course there
silver lining. With this attitude we can make the pleasure of obscenities as
self-evaluation tool. Not easy you know to see the lack of self. From the
It is said there may be inappropriate, but some parts
actually quite appropriate, too. Even if you're honest we still need
thankful, that God is still covering our abominations. What is said
it's actually not the worst of all our shortcomings. With
Thus we avoid the arrogant and cocky attitude perfectly. We
woke up feeling much more encouraged shortages and longer
improve themselves.
Dicacimaki also did not experience
telupakan. It turned out sharp words that can make this heart hurt.
Perhaps without us knowing we have friends or people revile
another, and then forgetting just after venting. Whereas
liver injury due to verbal abuse is difficult to cure.
Well, if we
not feeling reviled, be aware that other people like
it, too. Therefore driven from the valuable experience it immediately
repent and ask forgiveness from those who've hurt you. You
will not be able to bear the burden of facing trial in the hereafter
God. Amal-depleted amalmu switch hands on another person who you
dzalimi it. While the sins of the people who you dzalimi ditimbunkan
to you. That people who go bankrupt according to the Apostle.
After
get a great wisdom, we can more
are tolerant. Verbal abuse that happened to us it was like
herbal medicine. Although it is bitter, it can nourish the soul. Because of
that we need to practice how to best attitude to face verbal abuse
order of events was not diskenario God in vain. It becomes
fields we get the glory and greatness in His side.
Exemplified
in history; we know the Apostle did not escape a curse
even harder. Residents are invited on the correctness Ta'if
not welcomed, it is greeted with ridicule,
throwing stones and pieces of iron. Face, body and legs, he was
bloody. But he did not respond but
instead pray; Allahummahdi qawmi. Innahum ya'lamuun laa.
"O Allah, guide my people give it. Because sesesungguhnya they do not know. "
Abuse verbally
abuse does not make him humiliated, contrary to its name
more noble and great. Just imagine if the Apostle also responded with
a sharper emotional ridicule, would be another story.
It was hard to imagine. But if we realize the wisdom behind so many insults.
It seems
people who berate us it is not feasible repaid
lashing. Because behind the offense, we are likely to achieve
the glory and greatness of Allah is to be patient.
So
it is proper awareness of the opportunities opened, and the glory
that we forgive. In fact we can pray may she get
forgiveness and guidance from God for the better. Is not the prayer of the
which terdzalimi fulfilled?
